Category: the Rant Board
If your msn status says online, that says to all your contacts: "Here I am, talk to me." Why is it then that when I initiate a chat with a friend whose status says online that they ignore me completely? I can understand if you stepped away for a few minutes but most people write a message to that affect when they come back. Here, I'm referring to the people I know really well that I know are ignoring me on purpose. Here's my solution: if you dont want to talk to people, change your status or sign out so your contacts know you are not available for chatting. I know this rant doesn't maek much sense; theres a lot of background info on this pet peeve I havent written here. but thanks for reading anyway. I just had to get it off my chest.
Agree 100%!
I tend to block and delete people who never talk to me. Sometimes I put someone temporarily on block just because that particular person bores me or I've had enough of hearing about that person's problems or whatever reason, but when I feel I can deal with them I take them off block. But if I am online and someone says hi to me, I at least answer. At least I try to. There have been times when I realized too late that I missed a message, and the person has signed off in the meantime. But I sure understand your point of view.
yes i as well understand. i hate when people do that.
What if these people are waiting for a particular contact to talk to, i.e. what if they want to talk to someone at the moment, but not you? What if they're already in the midst of another conversation that takes all their attention?
Though in general I agree--they could just say "Hi, sorry, I'm busy, talk to you later."
My take on it is this, I do try to answer people who message me, but sometimes I simply do not see their window when it comes up because I'm doing other things. It's not like I mean to be rude or anything but if i don't see the message I can't answer.
While we're talking about pet peeves, the one thing that always gets me are these people that insist on writing one sentence, sending a message, writing something else, sending the message...so it's like you just got 6 or 7 messages in the span of 15 to 20 seconds or less. I tend to send messages that say all i want to say in one message, because it makes it easier for people to tell what I want to say. at least I've always thought it was. so if you're gonna send a message, keep it to one or 2 before waiting for a response? I made that mistake with someone and missed about 6 or 7 messages and the conversation really went to shit.
To the last poster, yeah, I know what you mean on that. I have friends that do that, or they don't even do a whole sentence in that one message, just 1 to 3 words. That really annoys me because it takes a lot longer to read it, and yeah, the fact that they could've just put all their thoughts on one entry. I'd rather wait a few minutes for them to do that then several seconds and needing to stay on just their screen because I don't know when/if they're done saying what they want to say. I also keep my comments to 1 entry, unless of course I forget to put something or am correcting something from that last entry. A weird thing though is when I do that, of course, it takes longer to send the message, and one of the friends that does the shorter multiple entries either assumes that I'm too busy or that I'm "writing a book". He's gotten a lot better at being more patient though.
To the original post, I think a good idea, if the other person doesn't want to talk to everybody, is (if they're still going to be chatting), to put themselves as busy, and add a note about that they will be talking to a specific other person, or something relating to what they'll be doing. For instance, one time, I had planned to be studying math with my sister, so I put myself as busy and that I was with my sister and studying schoolwork. I do agree though, (and this is a pet peeve to me), when someone is online (doesn't matter the status), and puts that they are sleeping, in class, etc, something where they obviously won't be available to chat. I always wonder why they don't just sign off and even just turn off the computer when they'll be away from it. That's just never made sense to me honestly.
to post 6: I have friends who do the 8 one-word messages. that drives me crazy too. Then I have others that send additional messages with one word that corrects a typo. I usually can figure out what they are saying without the one word corrections.
Post 8: I know a lot of people who will be set to online but have a note like "sleeping" there too. The only reason I can think for doing that is if they are sending or recieving a large file and changing the status would cancel the transfer. I always try to acknowledge every message I get even if they sign off before I see the message. I'll write to them and tell them I didnt see the message right away or something.
yeah i hate when people send multiple messages in the span of 15 seconds. and i as well need to stop sending messages to correct spelling errors unless the spelling error is really really bad to where the person cannot make out what i am saying.
To post 1, I agree.
Ignoring contacts is quite rude.
i'm a spelling and grammar nutcase. lol, so I don't send people messages correcting little mistakes to annoy them. It's just an impulse.
I try to correct any spelling/typo errors before sending, which I know takes longer, but then, most people I talk to do the same thing.